I do not want to be mean but…

…yeah, you should feel really bad!

Some days ago, somebody used this search line to discover our blog :”im going out with my mates ex boyfriend and feel really bad”.

I do not know how to put this without being mean. I am not a big fan of the rules, but your friends’ ex-boyfriends are strictly off-limits. You do not even need a book to tell you that. Common sense should be plenty enough. I am aware of that it can be hard to choose who we fall in love with, but seriously. Is that the excuse? Alright, we cannot control our feelings, but we can and should control our actions. I am sorry, but you should feel bad about dating your friend’s ex. Really bad. It is not socially accepted in our society. Moreover, it is not in your best interest: you will probably end up losing both of them.

Love Mandy

PS. I am sorry for he morality speech. I try to limit these kind of posts.

The pittyparty is over, so over

Boy broke up with me over the phone three months ago after two years of being together. The question was, can I still be friends with him?

By dumping somebody, you cannot help sending out the message that the person is not good enough for you. Or at least I thought. I have used far too much time and energy on this matter, on being hurt and on turning the page. Now I have realized that it’s not me, it’s him. He is the one with self-esteem issues who is not committed to a relationship. I did not really do anything wrong. He did. And no, I cannot stay friends with someone who thinks I am a person worth dumping on the freaking phone. His loss. What surprises me is that I do not miss him that much.

PS I do not like ranting about the past, but I cannot hide it troubles me being dumped. Now, I am officially over it and I will never mention it again. If I do, you are allowed to kick my a**. I will deserve it.

Love Mandy