Have I been a bad girl?

Lately I have been having a lot of sex. A lot. At least twice a day. Sometimes more. Sometimes several times before we hit the sac. And than again in the morning before we get up or in the shower. I have told him one of my darkest secrets and he has told me about his first and second wet dream. Which both were really sweet. Yet he thought they are embarrassing, so I won’t kiss and tell. What I can do is tell you about my first fantasy, which really is embarrassing. I have already told F and yes, he thought is was kind of bad too. It is. I know. It is sort of a daddy complex and that explains so much of why I have had some issues whenever I felt I was disapointing the male authority persons in my life. I have had this fantasy for a long time and I guess I still have it in me.

It is an older man who, for a reason I ignore, take an interest in me. He is a authority person. Sometimes I work for him, sometimes he is a sort of teacher or just an older and more experienced male. Anyway, he is strong and quite dominant. He comes into my room late at night and tells me to take off my clothes. I am a little afraid of him, but at the same time, I know I have to do what he says, or I’ll get in trouble. When I am completely naked, he starts toughing me and telling me what he will do with me down to the smallest detail. This really turns me on. He says I am going to be his for some time and that he will teach me how to satisfy him. Then he firmly says that if I do not do as he says right a way, he’ll punish me. Oh yeah, spanking. Then, he makes me giving him head and we make love all night.

I might have left the spanking part out because it is frankly quite weird. Well, not that it is anything wrong with it, but I do not like to admit it. I am a strong woman who has her life together, so it is quite embarrassing that my first fantasy was to be dominated in bed by an older dude. Anyway, he took it with a smile. Guess it wasn’t so bad telling after all.

 Love Mandy

It’s a date then, or at least a late dinner

Coworker called me yesterday to invite me over to is place Thursday. I believe his exact words was “Mandy, I want to cook for you” which kind of made me smile. As you surely know, there is a common belief that when a woman wants to cook for you, she does also want to sleep with you. However, this probably does not apply to the male part of the population. Moreover, this will be the second time he has made me a meal and nothing has happened. I might just take a shot and kiss him as I start to have some serious fantasies about him. I also have to break the pattern of being a coward when it comes to these kind of situations. Yeah… I think I may try that out…

Love Mandy

Doin’ da Girl

I don’t think I have met one of my friends who has not fantasized about sleeping with another woman. It has gone on for centuries, but I remember that when I was in my early teens, the medias brought up this subject like it was something new and chocking. For those who hasn’t got it yet, I hate to break it down: this is not exactly news.

Why does women fanasize about being with another woman?

First of all, it is pretty much accepted in society. It is OK to for two women to experimente with each other. For men on the other hand, it still is more taboo. Women and the female body is, even though we would like to think otherwise, still used in a sensual way in the medias to for example sell toothpaste, cars, shower-gel, hardware or food. In a way, we are forced to see the female body as not only an object, but a pretty attractive one. We could therefore say that it is quite common for women to look at each other and feel attracted to one and other.

Second, women are generally more attractive than men. Don’t get me wrong. Men sure are attractive, but there are different kinds of beauty. Women are sensual and feminine. They generaly take care of themselves and value themselves more than men do. I guess it is the difference, the excitement of something new, but at the same time familiar that is really the issue. Kissing a man is sexy. Kissing a woman is sensual. It isn’t quite the same thing, but that really is the thrill.

Third, even though the media to a certain level encourages girl on girl action, the excitement of being with a woman is also based on the feeling of doing something unorthodox. Maybe this does not reflect reality, but I like to think I am doing something “wrong” when I am with a girl. Good girls aren’t supposed to sleep with each other and even less enjoy it. Even though it certainly is more accepted than ever, I still would like to think I am breaking a taboo being with a girl. What is forbidden is exciting.

Forth, women knows how to satisfy another woman, simply because we share pretty much of the same anatomy. We both love spending hours on foreplay and don’t pass out after the first orgasm, leaving the other unsatisfied. In my experience, women are more thoughtful in bed than men when it comes to this. If our partner, woman or man, has not come yet, we don’t give in just because our own needs are filled. I would not like to generalize this statement, but this is my impression all over. Take it for what it is worth.

 

After Boy broke up with me, I have done some sleeping around. Not much though. Actually just one f*** and one kind of walk-in-the-park-date with a guy that I know would like to go out with me. Most likely, he is serious. Anyway, I am not ready for a relationship. Actually, I am fantasizing about sleeping with a girl. I have already kissed one and sort of fooled around. Nothing really exciting though. I won’t say more, but it may be realised pretty soon. More to come 😛

Love Mandy

2 + 1 = 3

About one year ago, I discovered that my boyfriend would like to sleep with me and another girl at the same time. As I have always fantasised about sleeping with a girl, I didn’t freak, but I thought it could be fun. Some months ago, Betty and I were talking about sleeping with two people at the same time or having a threesome. One thing lead to another, and we sort of agreed to try. My boyfriend has several times tried to realise it, but it has never really been a good timing so when we told him, he didn’t believe us.

 

Only to consider having sex with another person who is not a part of our couple, is it really a good idea? Can I watch my boyfriend sleep with another girl and not have a nervous jealousy breakdown? Is it possible to separate feelings and sex and just f***?

I am not really the jealous type, but this is nevertheless something so extreme that it might be difficult. What I think is the most important is that I trust both Betty and my boyfriend. We have decided several rules and stop signs which has to be followed. When it comes to the jealousy part, I do not see a threesome as making love. It is rather realising a fantasy which is pure sexual and has nothing to do with feelings. I know this can be easy for me to say before we actually have done it, but we have already done stuff the three of us, even though we haven’t gone that far. The things we did, just kissing and touching, went pretty well. No nervous breakdown or hard feelings. No awkward silence around the breakfast table the morning after. It was just fine. I just have to underline that we aren’t doing this because we want to save or freshen up our relationship. There is nothing to save or fresh up and everything is going great. It think it is a complete must to be in a healthy and strong relationship to be able to go through something like this. Let’s hope we haven’t misjudged our strength.

 

Love Mandy

 

Menage-a-trois, part 1!!

Well, don’t we all have some sort of secret lust to have sex with two other people at the same time? All my buddies (boys) allways reveal their desire to sleep with two girls at the same time, and some friends of mine, a couple, would love for me to join them ‘in the act’, in fact they are asking when could be a good time for it.. And when I think about it, I feel that maybe it isn’t such a bad idea. We all have our lusts, and to be honest one of mine is to have sex with two people at the same time, if it’s a girl and a boy or two boys doesn’t really matter to me, but I think it’s the excitement of it all.

I’ve been talking to some people about this subject, and many of them agrees that it would be exciting, allthough most of them thinks that in the end they wouldn’t go through with it.. What a shame, it must be so much fun to actually have lived to see some of your fantasies come through, to actually have the guts to go through with them..

More to come, stay tuned 😉

XOXO Betty!

Fifth Base

I love these American sport metaphors! The way American men combine something so intimate as sex with something so casual as sports, is fascinating and a bit touching. Anyway, the subject isn’t really the American language, but the fifth base or anal sex. When it comes to anal sex, I have the impression that either you love it, or you hate it. According a study TNS Sofres made for Marie-Claire¹, only 10 % of the female population like having anal sex. Why? Because the thought of having something put up our butt isn’t really that exciting. For girls, one bad experience tend to ruin the way we think of it and this is really too bad, because done the right way, anal sex can be delicious. I have tried to sum up the reasons why more or less 10 % of the female population like this way of intercourse.

 

An orgasm (I am talking about the female orgasm, as I can’t really experience a male one) is both, physical and mental. It is quite obvious that everybody needs physical “stimulation” to reach the seventh heaven. Correct me if I’m wrong, but if you’re not in the right mood, it will be difficult no matter how hard you try. When it comes to anal sex, I think there are two aspects, one physical and one mental, that make 10 % of us like it. Medically speaking, the anus has a several number of nerves, which may make anal penetration even more sensible than vaginal penetration. I have to point out that it is an absolute must to use loads of personal lubricant since this area isn’t naturally lubricated. Another tips is to to take it slow and breath. A slow in-and-out movement. My best advice is to breath and relax, If you’re tensed, your muscles will contract and the penetration may hurt. The psychological part of anal sex is related to all the prejudice and taboo you have to break when you do it. I can just mention that anal sex was forbidden in many states in the US until 2003. You could actually get until 10 years of prison if somebody caught you while having anal sex. Because it still at some point is considered as taboo, a girl will only do it with somebody she really trusts. I would say that everybody can have vaginal sex, but only two persons who has come to a point were they trust each other at the point of becoming very intimate will have anal sex. Many girls also have this good girl syndrome, which I have already explained, and that makes it quite a kick because “good girls don’t have anal sex” and if they have, “they don’t enjoy it”. It can also be quite convenient during our period.

 

What do I think about the fifth base? I am one of those girls who can’t get enough. I enjoy the special feeling and I really love the mental kick. But most of all, I like getting really intimate with my boyfriend.

 

Love Mandy

 

1. http://www.tns-sofres.com/etudes/pol/030701_sexualite_r.htm

 

 

 

I want your girlfriend to be mine

Sometimes I find myself thinking that relationships would be so much easier if I liked girls instead of boys. I mean, boys are quite different from girls (no kidding :P). Except the obvious differences, I wonder how it would be to have a girlfriend. When it comes to communicating and living together, I think a girl could be easier to live with than a boy. We are more likely to share on the cleaning part. We do not forget birthdays or couples anniversaries. We have many interesting discussion subjects and common interests. A girl would never say no to sex because there is a soccer-match on TV or because she will play wow.  In bed, there are one big backside: the penis-issue, as girls don’t have one. Nevertheless, there are a lot of other things you can do in the bedroom. Generally, girls make more sounds in bed, which I find really exciting. Girls knows exactly how to satisfy another girl because we have the same body and get turned on by many of the same things. We share fantasies and just know what the other one is thinking. A girl is also more persistent than a boy since she can keep it going for hours. Finally, it could be quite cool being with a girl. I wonder who I could hit on… Betty? 😀

Love Mandy