Little mirror on the wall

Due to recent discussions between Betty and I whether one should be friends with the ex and the fact that I just learned that we can create a poll on wordpress, we now want to hear your opinion on the matter!

Love Mandy

The angel from my nightmare

Like the ghost of what I used to listen to when I was in high school (Blink), Boy has made a reappearance in my life. I have had nothing to do with him over the last 6 months, but one week ago he send me a message on facebook. I am not friends with him on facebook so I didn’t know he could do that. But I guess you can.

Anyway, he basically told me he regretted that he had acted like a total ass and that if it was anything he could do, I could just tell him. I also got the impression that he missed me.

 I answered a couple of days later that I was glad he send me the message to apologize. I also said that I am very happy right now and that there are not much he can do. Forgiving is not my strongest side, especially when it comes to ex-boyfriends. Nevertheless, I do forgive him. I also said that I guess I miss hanging out with him, but I can’t see us becoming friends again.

This is so typical. Why does it take almost a year for a boy to realize that I was the most awesome, most super blond girlfriend ever? I do not want to go back that road. I didn’t like the person I became in the end. I dealt badly with the fact that he wasn’t independent at all and therefore didn’t step up for us as a couple or take responsibilities, that he had no motivation for school, that he freaked out whenever I tried to talk about the future and that I wanted to have sex more than he did. Though I miss him a little.

Maybe in another life when we’re both cats.

Love Mandy

It’s a date then, or at least a late dinner

Coworker called me yesterday to invite me over to is place Thursday. I believe his exact words was “Mandy, I want to cook for you” which kind of made me smile. As you surely know, there is a common belief that when a woman wants to cook for you, she does also want to sleep with you. However, this probably does not apply to the male part of the population. Moreover, this will be the second time he has made me a meal and nothing has happened. I might just take a shot and kiss him as I start to have some serious fantasies about him. I also have to break the pattern of being a coward when it comes to these kind of situations. Yeah… I think I may try that out…

Love Mandy

I do not want to be mean but…

…yeah, you should feel really bad!

Some days ago, somebody used this search line to discover our blog :”im going out with my mates ex boyfriend and feel really bad”.

I do not know how to put this without being mean. I am not a big fan of the rules, but your friends’ ex-boyfriends are strictly off-limits. You do not even need a book to tell you that. Common sense should be plenty enough. I am aware of that it can be hard to choose who we fall in love with, but seriously. Is that the excuse? Alright, we cannot control our feelings, but we can and should control our actions. I am sorry, but you should feel bad about dating your friend’s ex. Really bad. It is not socially accepted in our society. Moreover, it is not in your best interest: you will probably end up losing both of them.

Love Mandy

PS. I am sorry for he morality speech. I try to limit these kind of posts.

The pittyparty is over, so over

Boy broke up with me over the phone three months ago after two years of being together. The question was, can I still be friends with him?

By dumping somebody, you cannot help sending out the message that the person is not good enough for you. Or at least I thought. I have used far too much time and energy on this matter, on being hurt and on turning the page. Now I have realized that it’s not me, it’s him. He is the one with self-esteem issues who is not committed to a relationship. I did not really do anything wrong. He did. And no, I cannot stay friends with someone who thinks I am a person worth dumping on the freaking phone. His loss. What surprises me is that I do not miss him that much.

PS I do not like ranting about the past, but I cannot hide it troubles me being dumped. Now, I am officially over it and I will never mention it again. If I do, you are allowed to kick my a**. I will deserve it.

Love Mandy