Hot and old news

Yesterday, Betty told me about an article on msn.com. It always makes me laugh when media write about so called new and unknown stuff, when in reality, we have been aware of the subject for a while. Anyway,  the article explained that women has as much sex appetite as men. Some of you might say, “hey, if that is true, then why is my partner never taking the initiative?”. According to this article, a certain Tristan Bailey explains that it’s because women get turned on in the act and not so much before it. She will therefore respond positively to her partner, but not take the first step to get undressed. I would also add that the good girl syndrome some of us deals with, might play a part. Tristan Bailey’s advice to all frustrated men out there who are tired of having the impression that they are the only ones thinking about sex, is to find out what turns your partner on and then do it and the chance you’ll get her in bed increases considerably. Okay, but what about my needs you might say. Well… I am not talking about one night stands, but how I think things work out in a relationship. My experience is that when a girl trusts a boy, she is willing to do almost everything in bed. If she doesn’t take the initiative to satisfy you, it might be that she thinks she should “get your approval” to touch you (silly, but it might be true). Il might also be that she doesn’t realise that you too need foreplay. So tell her, communication is everything. How do you think men first discovered clitoris? On their own? I think not…  I can’t repeat this enough: communication.

I think Tristan Bailey is right because when a girl at first get turned on, she is more likely to loose those moral restrictions she might have, simply because you drive her mad. An illustration from real life, it was first one time I was really horny and dripping wet that my boyfriend got me to fifth base.

 

Love Mandy

 

Fifth Base

I love these American sport metaphors! The way American men combine something so intimate as sex with something so casual as sports, is fascinating and a bit touching. Anyway, the subject isn’t really the American language, but the fifth base or anal sex. When it comes to anal sex, I have the impression that either you love it, or you hate it. According a study TNS Sofres made for Marie-Claire¹, only 10 % of the female population like having anal sex. Why? Because the thought of having something put up our butt isn’t really that exciting. For girls, one bad experience tend to ruin the way we think of it and this is really too bad, because done the right way, anal sex can be delicious. I have tried to sum up the reasons why more or less 10 % of the female population like this way of intercourse.

 

An orgasm (I am talking about the female orgasm, as I can’t really experience a male one) is both, physical and mental. It is quite obvious that everybody needs physical “stimulation” to reach the seventh heaven. Correct me if I’m wrong, but if you’re not in the right mood, it will be difficult no matter how hard you try. When it comes to anal sex, I think there are two aspects, one physical and one mental, that make 10 % of us like it. Medically speaking, the anus has a several number of nerves, which may make anal penetration even more sensible than vaginal penetration. I have to point out that it is an absolute must to use loads of personal lubricant since this area isn’t naturally lubricated. Another tips is to to take it slow and breath. A slow in-and-out movement. My best advice is to breath and relax, If you’re tensed, your muscles will contract and the penetration may hurt. The psychological part of anal sex is related to all the prejudice and taboo you have to break when you do it. I can just mention that anal sex was forbidden in many states in the US until 2003. You could actually get until 10 years of prison if somebody caught you while having anal sex. Because it still at some point is considered as taboo, a girl will only do it with somebody she really trusts. I would say that everybody can have vaginal sex, but only two persons who has come to a point were they trust each other at the point of becoming very intimate will have anal sex. Many girls also have this good girl syndrome, which I have already explained, and that makes it quite a kick because “good girls don’t have anal sex” and if they have, “they don’t enjoy it”. It can also be quite convenient during our period.

 

What do I think about the fifth base? I am one of those girls who can’t get enough. I enjoy the special feeling and I really love the mental kick. But most of all, I like getting really intimate with my boyfriend.

 

Love Mandy

 

1. http://www.tns-sofres.com/etudes/pol/030701_sexualite_r.htm