Take it like a man

Reading different blogs online, I have discovered that there are quite a few men who fantasise about getting butt f***ed by a woman with a strap-on dildo. I even think the correct term for this practise is femdom. This shouldn’t be very surprising, as men’s g-spot, the prostate, is located in their anus. My first reaction was something like: “hm… that’s weird… but, hey, no judging”. Then I thought, what if this is my boyfriend’s secret fantasy? This was more tricky… would I eventually be able to get a strap-on dildo and take care of his butt? The thought was not thrilling. I have never fantasised about it. Nevertheless, in the name of love, I would be willing to do a few things, which also might involve this scenario. A little nervous, I asked my boyfriend about this. Did he fantasise about me and a rubber dildo getting really familiar with his butt? He just looked at me and told me that I’m too obsessed. (Just for the record, I’m not.) He wasn’t into that stuff. To be honest, I was relieved. I am not judging and people shouldn’t take offence, but I think there are very few women who actually like doing this. Sure, she will probably do it if you are really close, though she might need a little time to get used to the idea. Anyway, I am sure there are women out there who would love to take care of men’s butts, but I guess they are hard to find. But then again, what do I know about that?

 

Love Mandy

Fifth Base

I love these American sport metaphors! The way American men combine something so intimate as sex with something so casual as sports, is fascinating and a bit touching. Anyway, the subject isn’t really the American language, but the fifth base or anal sex. When it comes to anal sex, I have the impression that either you love it, or you hate it. According a study TNS Sofres made for Marie-Claire¹, only 10 % of the female population like having anal sex. Why? Because the thought of having something put up our butt isn’t really that exciting. For girls, one bad experience tend to ruin the way we think of it and this is really too bad, because done the right way, anal sex can be delicious. I have tried to sum up the reasons why more or less 10 % of the female population like this way of intercourse.

 

An orgasm (I am talking about the female orgasm, as I can’t really experience a male one) is both, physical and mental. It is quite obvious that everybody needs physical “stimulation” to reach the seventh heaven. Correct me if I’m wrong, but if you’re not in the right mood, it will be difficult no matter how hard you try. When it comes to anal sex, I think there are two aspects, one physical and one mental, that make 10 % of us like it. Medically speaking, the anus has a several number of nerves, which may make anal penetration even more sensible than vaginal penetration. I have to point out that it is an absolute must to use loads of personal lubricant since this area isn’t naturally lubricated. Another tips is to to take it slow and breath. A slow in-and-out movement. My best advice is to breath and relax, If you’re tensed, your muscles will contract and the penetration may hurt. The psychological part of anal sex is related to all the prejudice and taboo you have to break when you do it. I can just mention that anal sex was forbidden in many states in the US until 2003. You could actually get until 10 years of prison if somebody caught you while having anal sex. Because it still at some point is considered as taboo, a girl will only do it with somebody she really trusts. I would say that everybody can have vaginal sex, but only two persons who has come to a point were they trust each other at the point of becoming very intimate will have anal sex. Many girls also have this good girl syndrome, which I have already explained, and that makes it quite a kick because “good girls don’t have anal sex” and if they have, “they don’t enjoy it”. It can also be quite convenient during our period.

 

What do I think about the fifth base? I am one of those girls who can’t get enough. I enjoy the special feeling and I really love the mental kick. But most of all, I like getting really intimate with my boyfriend.

 

Love Mandy

 

1. http://www.tns-sofres.com/etudes/pol/030701_sexualite_r.htm