Does size matter?

That’s the Question. Does the size on his penis matters to womans’ sexual pleasure? It is, I have heard, a scary question to ask because men tend to identify with their genitals.

I have slept with three men. Or more like two boys and one man. Anyway, they naturally had different ways of reacting to physical contact and they were not built the same. In my opinion, average is perfect. I have experienced that if the guy is really big, he hardly react to anything but his penis. Everything turns around it and it can be pretty annoying when you try to give head and the only technique that seems to turn him on is sucking. I mean, it’s so much more fun when you can work him up in other ways, like licking him on the inside of his legs, the area between the anus and his balls, or just the head. I love it when I can bite his neck and he moans with pleasure. It really gives me confidence and makes me want to do other stuff. It ca also be because he knows he’s that big, he have never done any real effort to please a woman in bed, as the myth the bigger the better is out there. Just to make things clear, we usually come much harder from stimulation of the clitoris, and not the penetration itself. I can’t stress this enough.

Does it feels better during sex if he’s big? In my experience, not really. It’s more about how excited I am than his size. When I am extremely turned on and longing for having him inside me, the sex mostly is great. Mostly. South Park reference!

In conclusion, it’s all about how the girl is worked up, rather than size. It may be a cliché, but foreplay really makes the difference. And remember, we fall in love with a man, not a penis, even though it’s a package deal.  

Love Mandy

Yes, I can!

Today I managed to have an orgasm all by my self! This proves that it is possible. I can do it on my own. It might sound corny, but this is actually a hudge acomplissement. I never thought I was able to have one without my little friend. Youhoo!

Love Mandy

Say hello to my little friend

Have you noticed that when people talk about sex, it’s always great. Always. And you feel like a complete idiot because you know that it doesn’t always work that way? Does this sound familiar? You are not alone.

I am going to admit something I have never told a soul. Until yesterday. I have never had a clitoral orgasm with a boy. In fact, the only way I have experienced one is with the though of my little friend. This is not something you want to brag about. And as a woman, I would never say it to my mate. This doesn’t mean I am faking it. When he goes down on me, I love it. It feels really good and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Yet, I do not climax. I have never told anybody because I am afraid of hurting his feelings. I can only imagine how I would reacted if I discovered that I couldn’t make my partner climax. That would be a serious damage to my self confidence. Also, I haven’t told anybody because secretly I do not want to be that vulnerable in front of somebody else. Anyway, I have a lot of small reasons I tell myself to make it sound better. Of course, I have no excuse.

Yesterday, F and I lay in his bed and he asked me about how things work with me. I hesitated, then I told him that I have never reached orgasm without an electric toy. It was pretty embarrassing for me to say it. And obviously, he did not like to hear it. He was glad that I told him, but his first reaction was (obviously) that his manly self esteem was hurt.

We talked it through. He had some trouble performing in the evening. We re-talked it over. I want him to be a part of it. He think he is ready. We did it again this morning. It was tender and quite nice. I really have the best boyfriend ever.

Love Mandy

The few seconds we work sooo hard for…

Boy once said to me that he thought women had much stronger orgasms than men ever could experience. I doubt and hope for all the men out there that it is not that way. However, women are able to have multi orgasms, both vaginal and clitoral. The vaginal ones are said to be less intense than the ones which comes from stimulation of clitoris. Before the afterglows of this amazing feeling end, I will try to describe the female clitoral orgasm as I experience it. It starts by stimulating (touching, rubbing) the clitoris. I have to say, it sometimes takes a lot. For a long time, I thought I had experienced an orgasm, but in real life, I was just on the stage just before one. To sum up, it might take time to get there. Before the orgasm, I feel the need of being penetrated. It is nearly an urge. It is like I really want to feel a man’s penis deep inside me. With more stimulation, my heart starts beating quite fast. I breath faster and I start to moan. When the orgasm is about to set in, it starts as a heat, or a bliss spreading from my clitoris. It quickly overwhelms my whole body. It is like all that exists is my clitoris. I am the clitoris, all of it. This feeling is so good that I usually cannot help myself but moaning out loud. After the climax, I can feel my vagina’s contractions and fast afterwards, my clitoris gets really sensitive and I want all stimulation of it to stop. I have to use a few minutes to gather myself as the afterglow of the heat still is in my body. When I am finished, I do not know why, but I have to pee.  My legs and arms are usually quite numb at this moment, just like I would be after a great physical effort. It might be caused by the huge amount of energy going through my body. After climax, I do not want to have sex at all. I want to take a rest. Not necessarily sleep. Just having a time out.

Love Mandy