It is just porn mom and it won’t go away

Is it well known that men are visual creatures and that is one of the reasons why they enjoy porn. Some women take offence when they catch their boyfriends or husbands in the act of enjoying a porn film, but are we really that innocent? Does women watch porn?

This question is a bit tricky, as it is difficult to speak for all the women out there. Myself, I don’t really watch it on a regularly base. I guess I downloadedwent to the red part of town to buy one just to check it out. I cannot really say I enjoy it much. First of all because there are so much bad acting. It is almost obvious that it is all fake. I have already mentioned that I cannot stand fake moaning. Then again, I am not really a visual person, so I generally don’t get turned on by watching. There is also another aspect: most porn films are made by men, for men. The result is often that porn is not really exciting for women. That said, there are porn productions which are made for woman such as movies by Erica Lust, Anna Span, Candida Royalle, Playgirl or Petra Joy. These films are porn from a women’s point of view and it might be a good place to start. The quality is rather good and you don’t get stuck with the impression that the act is all fake.

Personally, porn does not really turn me on. Sure I can enjoy watching a film with my man, but I enjoy more his reaction than the film itself. I think women get turned on more by a certain atmosphere than porn. I find it so much sexier to see the look in his eyes when he watch me get undressed or while I go down on him. Of course, porn may be a part of that atmosphere, but I think there are other things much more important. But then again, it is just me 😛

Love Mandy

The Porn Generation

The author of one of the blogs I read, seems deeply upset about a phenomene Arte, which is a French television station, made a documentary about some weeks ago. Just for the record, the blog is written in French, and just to clear things up, I am not French, I only speak and understand the language. The phenomene is described as The Porn Generation and is basiclyabout the influence porn may have on young people’s sex life. As porn has got more accesible to the masses on the Internet, the documentary shows that the porn generation will tend to reproduce what they see in porn on the behalf of sexual pleasure. The journalists interviewed especially one girl at my age who apparently consuming the opposite sex. She explains that she meets boys, then sleep with them and move on to the next. The is not exactly dating involved. Just good old fashionable f***ing. Later on, the same girl went out and explained that what she was saying was taken completely out of proportions and that she was told to exaggerate.

Since the girl and I are practically at the same age, I should by definition belong to this Porn Generation and I therefore feel that I have some explaining to do. I think she has a point when she says that today, men are not the only ones who are screwingaround. In fact, the differences between the sexes when it comes to sex, dating, hurting people, are shrinking. I think the social bonds which say that the male is the hunter and the female is supposed to be the one he hunts down, still are there, but they are beingpushed. This is not necessarily a bad thing.

Now, when it comes to the part where we, the porn generation, is supposed to imitate what we see in porn films and not really care about sexual pleasure, my experience is that, yes, we tend to try out things we see in these movies. But, and this is quite important, that does not mean we are not searching pleasure. Personally, my first sexual fantasies were based on what I had read in crime literature by Ken Follet. To me, it seems quite obvious that later on, I wanted to reproduce these fantasies. Let’s imagine a person whose first sexual fantasy was based on something he or she had seen in a porn film. You cannot deny that because of the accessibility, it may be more likely that young people today find their sexual material on the Internet than at the library. It seems pretty clear to me that that person would try some things he or she had seen on the screen out in real life.

Just to draw a parallel to my own experience, I think Boy was like that. He sometimes used to slap my butt. Yes, this may sound a bit weird, but once when we were fooling around on his bed, he slap my butt. Ever since, he has continued doing that. Not too often and not hard, but still. When I asked him if he did this because he had seen it in a porn film, he told me that the answer to that question was obvious. When I posed about this, I got the answer from a reader that “we want the reaction like the hot blond porn star”. I guess boys will be boys…

Just to make things clear, this does not mean that Boy and I had hardcore S/M sex. Quite the opposite actually. Nor does this mean that members of The Porn Generation constantly are imitating porn without having any pleasure. What it means that some of our fantasies that we try out in bed MAY be based on porn. Is this chocking? I think not. At the same time, it is not sure that walking around on this earth for 19 years qualifies my judgement 😛

Love Mandy