2 + 1 = 3
April 18, 2008About one year ago, I discovered that my boyfriend would like to sleep with me and another girl at the same time. As I have always fantasised about sleeping with a girl, I didn’t freak, but I thought it could be fun. Some months ago, Betty and I were talking about sleeping with two people at the same time or having a threesome. One thing lead to another, and we sort of agreed to try. My boyfriend has several times tried to realise it, but it has never really been a good timing so when we told him, he didn’t believe us.
Only to consider having sex with another person who is not a part of our couple, is it really a good idea? Can I watch my boyfriend sleep with another girl and not have a nervous jealousy breakdown? Is it possible to separate feelings and sex and just f***?
I am not really the jealous type, but this is nevertheless something so extreme that it might be difficult. What I think is the most important is that I trust both Betty and my boyfriend. We have decided several rules and stop signs which has to be followed. When it comes to the jealousy part, I do not see a threesome as making love. It is rather realising a fantasy which is pure sexual and has nothing to do with feelings. I know this can be easy for me to say before we actually have done it, but we have already done stuff the three of us, even though we haven’t gone that far. The things we did, just kissing and touching, went pretty well. No nervous breakdown or hard feelings. No awkward silence around the breakfast table the morning after. It was just fine. I just have to underline that we aren’t doing this because we want to save or freshen up our relationship. There is nothing to save or fresh up and everything is going great. It think it is a complete must to be in a healthy and strong relationship to be able to go through something like this. Let’s hope we haven’t misjudged our strength.
Love Mandy
Betty
Mandy
I am in the dilema as you. I have never been in a 3some but my BF wants me too. I tried to rationalize this as I tend to be the analytical type of person, but i think no matter how strong ur relationship is, it’s a difficult decision to make. One that will most likely make you or me regret. First of all, u will not know exactly how jealous you will be until you see yiu BF fucking her and her coming all over. Not to mention that the kinkiness will be felt more and enjoyed by your BF and ur best friend, not you. It’s not doing anything for you unless you like you best friend romantically.(he will enjoy it more than he does with u, since he is doing the things that he onormaly does to you only to your best friend, he might even be tempted to give her more attention and please her more, or fuch her harder in front of u). She would definelty love the attention since your guy is giving her the best dick…. if anyone ends up being hurt, it will only be YOU or Me in my case. Your best friend has no strings attached, and for guys, tey can easily separate sex from emotions. don’t do it if you care for the guy, u’ll get hurt. or set the rules that he cannot fuch her but he can enjoy a blow job from the both of u. protect urself.
It can cause some complications, but a fantasy lived well becomes a wonderful reality. In other words, if you’ve already done4play…go for it all. It’s fun!!!!!
Finally, we didn’t go through with it. It was not because we did not wanted to. The sad end of the story is that we broke up before we got the chance. Maybe it was for the best?
well i has been married for 9 years and my husband asked me the other day when having sex ,i am shock i dont know what to do
as a fantasy i like it but all the emotios and the trust ? i dont know who he is …
i touhgt that i will do a trio with somebody who i dont know in a crazy nigth far away but my husband?
we have a 4 year old daugther…
what about sexual disesase,i asked him if will we be 4 like swingers and he said no way he will kill me firts ,so i has been thinking a lot and i am nervous, resent , afraid to know more because i never cheated on him for nine years,i had opportunities but i did not do it ,if i do a trio i will have others men for sure.
will it destruid my family? i just want to run
I have been in a relationship with 2 women for a while and had all the emotions I didn’t even know they existed. But in a good way. What i read in the responses above is a lot of fear and very little trust. It takes courge and self-confidence to have a threesome, because whatever you say, it is always about emotions. If you have sex in three and try to do as if there are no feelings involved you will wake up to a hard reality. It is impossible to sepparate the two, cause if you try you will close your heart hurt yourself and your relationship closing down.
If you open your heart on the orther hand, and make love just to enjoy and share, and give the other two a great feeling, you have the best sex you will ever have – period. Becasue you will be vulnerable, and if there is enough love and respect this vulnerability becomes the most beautiful thing on earth.
You need to trust you boyfriend, that he does it out of love, to make you and the other girl feel great. If he is not trustwirthy, if he only wants the sex becuase he wants to feel the big mack daddy. Your relationship is over.
Fantasies are sometimes better off as fantasies, but threesomes can be wonerful realities if you are willing to love. Jealousy will be there, but that is ok if the relationshio between u and your boyfriend is good. It can be jealously in a good way, the way that makes you horny.
The whole experience is about you and your partner. Not out of frustration fucking someone else, but sharing the beautifull thing there is between you.
A threesome starts with trusing yourself, if you think you might not be enough for him, or that he might like her better, forget it.
Don’t ever cheat on your relationship, but go out and fuck other people together. But be carefull, the less this is about emotion, the more you will close your heaet.
Be open, vulnerable, love yourself, do it for the right reasons, don’t be affraid, and enjoy the ride
Great answer. I could not agree more